Online Dating and Long Distance Relationships

Online dating and long distance relationships are two things I have had the ability to explore within my dating life already. I think online dating can be a fairly useful tool to use for a few different reasons, if done right of course. But on the other hand, I believe that long distance relationships have a limit, and its a gamble as to where the limit ends.

When it comes to online dating, I think its a great way to get to know people and potential girlfriends/boyfriends initially. In my experience, the barrier of the whole thing really allows you to explore different people and almost effortlessly gain access to each others basic information, interests, and lifestyles. It’s a very efficient way to get your questions answered in a much faster and less awkward manner (for many cases), rather than having to go through it all on the first date. It also lets you assess whether the other patron is someone you think you would be compatible with and build that first connection before exploring each other in real life.

In my opinion, I think its a very effective tool since people are generally more brave to speak their mind and openly ask questions online rather than in real life. They tend to feel more free in letting others get to know them and asking questions themselves, probably since those people they are talking to are only entities at that point.

So in the whole, when its taken seriously, in a mature and professional manner, online dating can actually have many positive qualities. Even with that said, it is still a good idea to be a little careful of the people you meet online. Since there’s no emotions or faces associated with the people you interact with, it’s a lot easier for them to lie, over exaggerate and give the wrong impression, since everything is done over cyberspace. But in my experience, it seems pretty legitimate and I think its a very useful tool.

The other thing I wanted to talk about was long distance relationships. The reason I’m putting these together on the same post is because a lot of times online dating can result in or go hand-in-hand with a long distance relationship (or even the other way around).

I have been in a couple long distance relationships, some longer than others (in more ways than one too). But what I found was that they only work for so long and eventually somebody does get hurt because their partner grew tired of waiting. I don’t think a long distance relationship is something I could do anymore due to that. In the end I was the one that ended up getting hurt. I was dating a girl for two years when somewhere along the lines it turned into a long distance relationship. After a little bit, I guess she got bored or tired of missing me and decided to find herself a new boyfriend. She was the last person I loved too…

Anyhow, there’s really a limit as to how far a relationship can go over long distance. Once you hit that limit, things tend to slow down and a lot of times relationships burn out because of that.

So if your looking to ignite a flame, then I say give online dating a true effort and see what happens. As for me, I may be single at the moment, but I met a very promising girl. I’m really excited to see where this goes.

 

“One good thing about Internet dating: you’re guaranteed to click with whomever you meet” – Unknown

 

Tyson Trepidations.

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The Social Life

Don’t let the title fool you,  this post isn’t about simply hanging with friends, planning the next party or finding ways to increase your social status. It’s more about your cyber social life.

There are a couple of different points I’m going to approach on this post but based all upon something I saw on television. It’s actually inspired from a commercial for a Canadian RV rental company. In my opinion, its a fairly brilliant ad, especially since I still remember it and even making a blog entry about it.

The commercial features a family, a modern, middle class family with a mom, dad, son and daughter. Throughout the first 90% of the commercial all the family does is text constantly and be on some sort of social network site on the computer (None were mentioned or showed in the commercial, but I’m sure we can all guess which one they were making fun of). What really caught my attention though was that the members of the family didn’t even look up from their devices to acknowledge each other. They would simply say “Hi” whilst still looking at their devices, both parents and children alike.

With that said, at the very end of the commercial, the family packs up in their rental RV and head out to the great outdoors for the weekend, away from cellular service and wi-fi, where it shows them clearly having a great time around the camp fire.

Even though the commercial was over exaggerating for most cases of a typical family, they really hit a good point. A lot of time families miss out on the clean good fun they could be spending together or even with friends. I will admit, that in the past I was a huge culprit for texting a tonne and being on Facebook a lot. To be truthful, it actually all slowed down my progress in school and knocked about my grades when I first started university. That was all because of the amount of time I spent texting and sitting on Facebook. After my first semester of university and seeing the marks I got out of it, I quickly realized the damage that this cyber social life was doing to my work ethic and my aspirations of attending medical school. Not only that, I really realized how much time I was wasting sitting pointlessly on Facebook or sending useless texts that only a handful I’ll remember in my life. Since that epiphany, I cut back a lot on my Facebook time and texting. In fact a lot of days I don’t even bother going on Facebook or just sign on to make a status update for anyone that cares. Some days I don’t even text at all neither. After such a cutback, its amazing how much time I learned I was wasting with the cyber life and it really makes a difference in the length of the day and my productivity. I think is a very important lesson I learned in the modern society, that I don’t think should really be underestimated. So I employ anyone to just cut back a few days and see if you feel the same.

“It’s not what you know, it’s who you know that makes the difference” – Anonymous

Tyson Trepidations.

 

Top 10 Inspiring People In My Life

I figured that one of my first few blog posts should be about the inspirations that I have and had in my lifetime so far.

Here they are, my Top 10 Inspiring People:

10. Jim Carrey

I find Jim Carrey to be an awesome comedian and actor and for some reason a lot of the movies he’s starred in really had an impression on me. I think the biggest reason he makes it on my list of top 10 is because of his type of humor. It much resembles the funny bone that I portray in real life as well, which is a crazy and fairly random approach, that can be quite loud and downright out of the world. In fact, it wouldn’t surprise if I adopted a lot of the stuff I do from him and his acting. Among my favorites would have to be his role in the Pet Detective movies, making them among my favorites of all time. But after following him on Twitter and reading what he has to say about life, I think he’s a really nice and upbeat guy as well that makes me able to look up to him and what he does as a professional. Showing that there’s more than just a funny bone in his body after all.

9. Mike Modano

Yes I know, I’m Canadian, so there has to be a hockey player on here! Even though he is an american, he’s pretty good I guess, especially since he’s the all time highest scoring american in the NHL. But that’s not the only reason why he’s on my top 10 list as number 9 (Yes, its suiting since his jersey number was #9 for the part of his career with Dallas). The reason he’s on my list and one of my most respected hockey players is the way that he approaches the game and has been there since the day I took interest in the game. Maybe its because he has 20 seasons in the game and just plays an old game? I’m not actually too sure. With that said, he’s a very talented hockey player with average stature and build that is a really nice guy on and off the ice. He’s the real deal and what the sport is all about.

8. Lee “Apollo” Adama

Even though he’s not a real person, the character of Apollo has to be an inspiration of mine. Coming from my favorite TV show, Battlestar Galactica (Both the new and old versions), he became an inspiration to me with the way he approached life. He was always trustworthy, being there for his family and friends through all tough bends, and the way he does everything he possibly can to save mankind. Sure, we aren’t running from the Toasters, but the characters dynamic still allows me to connect with Apollo. He always continues to battle and fight for survival no matter how many members of his family and friends parish in the events of the show. He’s a guy that I’d like to take a page out of his book, even if he isn’t a real person.

7. Dick Van Dyke

Even though I’m still fairly young, this guy still has quite the lagacy and is still being watched constantly with his collection of classics such as Marry Poppins, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and The Dick Van Dyke Show. He’s a man with pure and raw talent, but still a humble and very down to earth man, which earns him a lot of respect in my books. He often refers to his rise in fame as luck, but he wouldn’t be lucky if he didn’t have natural born talent already inside of him. For those that know me, they would tell you that I’m quite into the classical musicals, and its Dick Van Dyke (along with Gene Kelly) who made me really appreciate the art to them. I may sound old fashioned, but they really don’t make musicals the same anymore, so the only way to authentically see one is to watch the originals, like Dick Van Dyke.

6. Ash Ketchum

I know, I know, another character instead of a real person, but my original childhood Pokemon hero has to appear on this list. The show was my absolute favorite growing up, along with millions of other children of course too. But it really made way for my imagination, created some of the most fun experiences in my childhood and comes up in conversation fairly frequently still. Ash is a very determined guy and will stop at nothing to achieve what he wants and keep the friends he battled with and for no matter what happens. That’s devotion and makes him a great guy for kids to look up to, and an inspiring way to create a great imagination. There’s nothing I would trade for my childhood memories.

5. Bryan F. Peterson

As one of my interests and hobbies being photography, it is certain that my favorite photographer has show up in the mix somewhere. He has some incredible shots and really wonderful work that is purely world class. But he isn’t just making a living off his work, he also teaches and passes on the skills he’s learned throughout his life with classes online and in real life. I was lucky enough to experience one of his classes where he really does give a lot of one-on-one to make you into a better photographer. On top of that, he’s a really funny and charismatic guy that really knows how interact with people to create a environment that’s easy to learn from.

4. Eric Clapton

As mentioned, another passion of mine is the guitar. Eric Clapton is who I started aspiring when I was learning and I took to myself to get to know many of his songs on the guitar and learn to play them. That’s what made me stick with playing was the challenge of learning the music of one of the greatest guitar players of all times and an incredible musician. The first song I really mastered was “Layla” and that was a pretty proud moment of mine, along with learning the song “Tears In Heaven” that he wrote for his four year old son that sadly parished at such an early age. But somehow Eric Clapton found a way to make a beautiful song out of it…

3. Michael Crichton

Not too many celebrity deaths have impacted me, but when Michael Crichton died in 2008, it actually made me quite sad. I have read all of his books and own almost all of them (but plan to own all in the future). He was always my favorite author and provided me with a lot of reads that kept me up very late at night to find out what would happen next. He was a brilliant man and a brilliant writer who knew exactly how to captivate others with his words and teachings. I also look up to him being a guy that has an M.D. from Harvard, since I’m looking to start medical school in the near future. Also the way that he worked with the government in the aspects of climatology and genetic research was a real accomplishment for society.

2. Bon Jovi

My favorite band has to show up as number two. I saw them twice in concert the last couple times they were in Vancouver, have all their records and have been a fan since my early childhood. I think they really write music that can connect with really anybody, holding a lot of meaning lyrics along with a great beat and melody as well, nothing could go wrong. They also have a great influence in my guitar playing as well with great songs to rock out to and solos to figure out. A lot of their songs touch my life and my heart, so many that they have to appear as number 2.

1. My Parents

Everyone on my list is fairly well known all over the world, except these two. My parents are my biggest inspiration, which is much the same for many people out there. They are always someone I can count on and have taught the most important lessons in life, gave my biggest part of my imagination and formed me into the respectable and nice guy that I am today. For that I thank my parents and they always be number one. Amen.

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out” – Walter Winchell

Who Are Your Inspirations?

Tyson Trepidations.

The World And Exploring It

Even though this is only my second blog post, I’ve already mentioned this twice, but it’s worth mentioning for a third time. I find that building connections all over the world is very important with experiencing the different views of the world and understanding culture.

I know most people that travel (and travel smartly), will tell you that travelling is quite addicting. Once you start seeing and experiencing things you never laid your eyes on or felt before, its something you want to continue to do. Even though my travels have barely taken me out of North America, I can understand this concept and I feel that having the ability to travel is an opportunity that shouldn’t be wasted. In fact, a significant number of people from Canada and the United States have never left their province or state, let alone their country.

That all seems extremely robotic and systematic to me.

When I look to travel, I don’t actually look into the travel packages too much. A lot of them cover a lot of ground and show a person many many things in their destination. The problem I have with those is that they really rush you through places a lot of the time and its just non-stop. Especially the ones that cover many destinations or countries in something as short as a two week period. It basically goes that you get there, look around, take pictures and move on to the next attraction like a herd of cattle. For that, is why I think making worldwide connections is very important.

As a university student studying in Canada, I’m very lucky to have a vast diversity of cultures to interact with while going to school. It means I can make many friends and connections from all over the world. It’s these relationships that really help me to understand different cultures and create a foundation to travel to and with.

There’s also the internet for those that aren’t shy and confident with their ability to judge character and trust others. It’s such an easy way to connect with the earth, using the resources on the world wide web. It can be as simple as places like these (blogs), to start making the worldly connections and there are also places specialized for that, such as couch surfing. With that said though, you still have to be careful on the internet, even with fairly trustworthy methods like the official couch surfing site.

I guess the best way to end is to share the places I wish most to explore and start building connections into. So here they are:

Malaysia

Singapore

Peru

Santorini (Thira)

Czech Republic

 

“Life does not ask what we want. It presents us with options” – Thomas Sowell

First Post! Here We Go.

Hi! My name is Tyson Trepidations and welcome to my blog!

This is my first ever post and I’m pretty excited for the future of this blog.

To learn more about myself, feel free to check out the “About Tyson Trepidations”, found beside the home button, I gave a fairly long write up.

As a quick sum up though, I am a 21 year old university student currently working the summer as a cook to save up for next falls tuition. I’m in the Bachelor of Science program majoring in Cellular, Molecular, and Microbial Biology.

For my blog, what I’m looking to achieve is to just be free and post about my life and things that I find interest me, are funny, and just good stories and lessons to share. On top of that, I’m always looking for new friends and finding ways to build connections all over the world. It really makes travelling easier and better when you have those bonds and connections.

As for now, again welcome! And stay tuned for more from me and my crazy life.

Tyson Trepidations.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us, are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us” – Oliver Wendell Holmes